Sex toys are an incredible source of pleasure, but they can be intimidating for newbies. Whether exploring alone or with a partner, focusing on open-minded experimentation and pleasure is essential.
Thankfully, we’ve put together this handy guide to help you navigate the world of adult toys. From wands to vibrating dildos and everything in between, we’ve got you covered.
Vibrators
Whether you’re looking for something to play solo or amplify intimate moments with a partner, there are plenty of ways to enjoy a vibrator. Most fall into one of two categories: external, which stimulates hotspots like the clitoris and G-spot, or internal, which allows you to feel sensations from the inside out.
Try a hands-free toy that’s easy to use and comes with instructions (as SELF has previously reported, holding the most prominent power button down for two or more seconds usually gets you where you need to go). And don’t forget always to apply a water-based lubricant (and make sure it’s sex toy compatible) to reduce friction and increase pleasure.
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Dildos
A dildo is a sex toy that is typically shaped like a penis. They are often used for vaginal penetration and stimulation or anal penetration. They can also be used to stimulate the prostate. Dildos come in a variety of shapes, sizes, and colors. Some are sexy and realistic-looking, while others have more playful shapes or look like toys. Some even have balls attached.
Regardless of their style, most dildos can be cleaned with an eco-friendly toy cleaner. However, it’s important to note that dildos made from porous materials like glass and stainless steel should be boiled after every use. This is to help prevent bacteria buildup and infection.
Choosing the right dildo can be a personal experience, and it can be helpful to ask for input from a trusted friend or partner. It’s also a good idea to start small and go slow, as an insertable sex toy can hurt the first time. Ensure you choose a dildo that’s comfortable and fits your anatomy. Lastly, don’t forget always to use a good amount of lube.
Anal toys
Anal toys stimulate the nerve endings in the anus and can be used for climax or solo play. They are usually shaped to fit the shape of the anus, and they can be smooth or have bumps or ridges for extra sensation. Many also vibrate and pulsate for extra pleasure.
While anal toys are a great way to add some spice to sexual pleasure, it’s essential to be aware of the risks. It’s best to start small, work your way up, and always use plenty of lube. Also, never share anal toys between partners without thoroughly cleaning them first. The anus and vagina are two very different ecosystems, and sharing anal toys can spread bacteria from the anus to the vagina.
Anal sex toys are typically made of body-safe materials, like silicone or stainless steel, and are available in a variety of shapes and sizes. They can be inserted easily and are often designed with a flared base, which helps prevent the toy from getting lost inside you (which has happened, and it’s not a good thing). Some are even textured, like with veins or ridges, for added pleasure.
Bondage gear
Bondage gear is a type of kinky sex toy that restricts the movement of a person or binds their body parts together. It is commonly used in BDSM play, which involves a range of different power exchanges and sensory experiences. Bondage equipment can include ropes, chains, whips, collars, handcuffs, and spreader bars.
One popular type of bondage gear is a ball gag. These toys feature a small ball that goes into the mouth and can be secured around the head with a strap. They’re great for people who have oral fixations or are turned on by the power exchange that happens when one partner consensually gives up their ability to speak.
Other types of bondage gear include blindfolds, a simple but effective tool for heightening anticipation and sensual experiences. You can find these in various styles and materials, including leather. Some even have unique designs that add an extra layer of excitement to the experience. Just be sure to establish nonverbal safe words before engaging in gag play with your partner.
Male masturbators
Men tend to be slightly more reluctant to pick up adult toys but miss out on much fun. Male masturbators can be used in the bath, for solo stroker play, or even with a partner.
From Fleshlight-style strokers to frenulum massagers and blowjob simulators, there are a lot of options to explore for male pleasure. Some male strokers even have remote control features to take your play to the next level.
Before you start playing, remember that personal lubricant is a must. Most masturbators feel best once they’re nice and slick, so be sure to add some before slipping your penis inside. Also, look for strokers designed for your girth and length. Longer, thicker penises can be a challenge to fit into some strokers, but there are plenty of stretchy, expandable models to try that work with almost any sized penis. And finally, don’t forget to clean your toys after each use. It’ll keep them feeling fresh and extend their lifespan. Rinse them out well and wipe them down with soap and water.
